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punkadelicfu
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Post subject: i think i below it!
 Posted: Jan 20, 2010 - 05:03 PM
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| Hi, I really do have much dating experience or anything so I need some advice: OK so I’m not college, last semester I kept seeing this guy(I’m really attracted too) and well I didn’t see him this semester until one day I was sitting on his ledge thing in the hallway he just kind of show up out of nowhere and I thought he was just going to pass me but then we both were looking at each other and he came my way , he was standing right there in front of me I didn’t know what to do so I looked down and pretended like a was doing homework then he sat down next to me. He said “hello” to some guy a new sitting across from him and some girl came back and started to talk to him( which made me kind of mad) she asked him if he was waiting for a class, and he was like, “ well I left my schedule at home, I’m just trying to see if I’m close to one of my class” and then he’s like, “ well I don’t see any people down here that I know so I guess it’s not here.” So I don’t know if I screwed it up B/C for the next week I kept seeing him but it wasn’t the same. And he looked different. When I saw him the first day he had his hair cut and go-tea and 7 days later mess up hair and a beard and he looks sad. And even though we don’t know much about … ok we know nothing about each other, I wanted to get to, I told my coworker about it and she said I rejected him but I didn’t know he wanted talk…To ME! I don’t know what to do. I think he move on. Please someone I need advice. |
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Janice
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Posted: Feb 03, 2010 - 09:08 PM
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Joined: Mar 19, 2004
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You describe a dilemma that is quite common these days -- having a "crush" on a guy (which is fantasy-based), but wishing to move it into something reality-based. Crushes can be fun, but they can also be tortuous. They can be fun if you can allow yourself to let it stay a fantasy; but if you want something more, then it's a set-up for frustration.
If you want to talk with him, then I suggest you don't wait for him to approach you again. That is a fantasy. You'll have to take the initiative and talk with him. Just smiling and saying "hi" is a good way to start. See how he responds. If he smiles and says hi back, then you can ask him a question -- maybe like why he grew a goatee. If he's not interested, then you'll know pretty quickly.
I suggest you take the opportunity to see what can happen by taking the initiative and being proactive. Otherwise, he can just stay a crush in your imagination. . . which can still be fun. Good luck! |
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