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I got the call last week to give my expert opinion on why singer-acrtress Jessica Simpson is having difficulty finding a committed relationship after divorcing her husband, Nick Lachey. Since her divorce, I was told that Jessica has been disappointed in her search for a new partner, yet dating a variety of "unattainable men." So I was asked why Jessica was engaging in this pattern. To which I said, (as seen on page 73)

I don't know Jessica, but from what I'm told, Jessica broke one of my cardinal rules about how to, and why, leave a marriage -- Never leave thinking that you'll find someone better; leave only if you would rather be alone for the rest of your life than to be with this person for another minute.

You can read more about Jessica and her struggle online at Us Magazine. Or you can request a pdf of the article for your own use by going to the Contact Us page.

If you haven't taken a teleclass with me yet, this summer is the time! Join me for my FRE^E *Beyond Chemistry* Teleclass: Create a Dating Road Map to Find Your Life Partner scheduled for Tuesday, July 17th from 9-10 pm EDT.

If you're frustrated with the state of your life-partner search, you need the information I provide in the *Beyond Chemistry* teleclasses now more than ever! I will introduce you to a new perspective about dating to help you feel more confident, and less frustrated, in your pursuit of a loving, committed relationship.

Or, if you're READY FOR A MORE INTENSIVE SHAPE-UP, try The *Beyond Chemistry* Teleclass Series: Use What You Know to Finally Find Your Life Partner.

I've designed this 4-part teleclass coaching series to teach you how to access what you already know about yourself and others and to apply this knowledge to successfully navigate the dating process, overcome your relationship obstacles, and FINALLY find your life partner. This teleclass series is scheduled for four consecutive Wednesdays, July 25th, August 1st, 8th and 15th 2007 from 9-10 pm EDT and costs $120.

To learn more about these teleclasses, as well as how to register (and a special discount), go to the Teleclasses and Events page.

It appears as though I've become one of the "go-to" experts for a very nice (and smart, of course) Us Weekly reporter, because she called me again -- this time to ask for my impressions about Kate Hudson's break-up with Owen Wilson. Not that I know Kate or Owen personally, mind you. But the magazine was interested in understanding why relationships that begin as extra-marital affairs usually don't seem to last. You can read my expert opinions in the article "The End of the Affair" which begins on page 56 of the January 15th edition. But in case you can't wait to get to your local newstand, here's what I had to say about why their breakup may have been inevitable,

"Those relationships don't last because they're an escape from dealing with the real issues in another relationship," Janice D. Bennett, an NYC-based clinical psychologist, tells Us. "For Kate, it's likely that Owen's purpose changed from being a distraction, which he probably did very well, to 'Let's see if we can make this into a real relationship.' Which completely changes the rules."

They decided to use my "psychologist" moniker, not "relationship-coach" this time -- but I was quoted correctly and my name was spelled right! And it's gratifying to have national exposure!

I'll have pdf copies of the article (which includes lots of photos of Owen, Kate and even her mom, Goldie Hawn) to send out if it's for your own personal use. Just go to the "contact us" page to request one.

Here's what YOU said in answer to the question, "Do you believe that the man should always be the pursuer in a relationship?"

19% said, "Yes. Men have to pursue women for it to work out."
50% said, "Yes. But a woman can let him know she's interested."
31% said, "No. A woman should be able to pursue a man equally."

I think these results indicate how much women desire to have the same power and control in directing a relationship. But while women acknowledge that men are the rightful pursuers, women can still have an influence. However, how strong of an influence is still unknown. As I said in my answer on the Message Board post "Is he trying to date me?" ". . . . men are more likely to pursue a woman when he receives clear signals that she's interested in him."

So while 31% of you believe that "a woman should be able to pursue a man equally," I think that's wishful thinking. Women need to accept that some gender biases still exist, just as they did in Sadie Hawkins' time.

All you have to do is go to the Greenstone Radio/Women Aloud website, and click on "Listen," and you're there!

This is actually going to be my second time being interviewed by Mo Gaffney and Shana Wride, two very funny and real women interested in what I have to say about love, dating and relationships. And you can ask me questions that I'll answer on the show too! All you have to do is either send in your questions ahead of time to live@womenaloud.com, or call in to the station at 1.866.51.ALOUD during the live stream.

Help me to help you, Mo and Shana, and other listeners learn how to navigate the rocky waters of long distance relationships by participating in the show. You'll also be supporting my efforts to demonstrate how coaching can successfully help singles attain the kind of relationships and lives they really want.

So please join me! And if you like what you hear, be sure to make your opinions known by sending an email to live@womenaloud.com and asking that I be invited back. . . . often!

Check out the article "Copycat Couples" in the December 2006 issue of Cosmopolitan (Cosmo) magazine! It's on newstands now with the beautiful Katherine Heigl (from "Grey's Anatomy") on the cover. Here's a little peek at what I said about what makes for great relationships --

"True compatibility is based on sharing similar values and goals and having emotional, intellectual, and sexual chemistry," says Bennett, "Often, pairs get together because they find each other attractive or talented, and then they begin to figure out that they don't have any other bonds, so they embrace something superficial that they can feel united about and invested in."

There's lots more in this enlightening and well-written article by Lesley Rotchford. I have pdfs of the article (which includes photos of lots of celebrity couples too), and can send one to you for your own personal use. Just go to the Contact Us page and request one. Happy reading!

From our very first phone conversation, Janice helped me to make finding a relationship a priority, because up until then I was busy building a successful career. Once my fiance and I decided to become exclusive, Janice encouraged me ask the "difficult" questions so I could determine if he and I were on the same page with regard to our life goals and desire for commitment. Now, as we plan our wedding, Janice continues to help me to ask the "difficult" questions, and navigate the ever-increasing number of decisions that must be made about our future.

I enjoy working with Janice and recommend coaching highly. During every call (and email), Janice expressed friendliness, concern and genuine care for me. I found that it really is true--if you focus on your goals, you can achieve them--and Janice can help you get there!"

Congratulations, Allison! (Read more testimonials by clicking here).

So go pick up a copy now! But just in case you can't, here's what I said in response to Jennifer having "trust issues" --

"We learn about love and acceptance from our parents," relationship coach Dr. Janice D. Bennett tells Us. "How we experience parental love provides us with the foundation for loving others."

I was the only "relationship expert" featured in the article, my name was spelled correctly, and I was not misquoted -- how great is that! I'll have pdf copies of the article (which include photos of Jen with her parents and exes) to send out for your own personal use. Just go to the "contact us" page to request one.

The results to the DoctorLoveCoach.com poll are in! Here's what YOU said in answer to the question, "When choosing a life partner, how important is attention to personal grooming?"

55% said, "Very important. I couldn't live with a slob."
41% said, "It's not as important as other issues."
4% said, "Even if s/he is a slob, you can work it out later."

I get visions of the "Odd Couple," Oscar and Felix, whenever I imagine two people living together with different grooming habits and cleanliness practices. But, they made it work. . . well, in a way.

So while 41% of you said that grooming wasn't as important as other issues, 55% of you said that it was. And I think that these results say something very important about the dating scene today, which is this -- singles who want a partner who shares the same attention to grooming and cleanliness are actually willing to say so. It can become a "deal-breaker" for many. So, all of you "Oscars" out there - beware! Someone might find you rejectable if you constantly leave your clothes on the floor.