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denharji
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Post subject: Taking A Break
 Posted: Jun 28, 2006 - 09:11 AM
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| Hello. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 9 months until last month she asked 4 a break. The months leading up to the break we both couldnt find time to see each other coz she was busy with work and cosines wedding. So i asked her where the ralationship was going she goes @ the moment no where because she was waiting 4 me to call her and txt her and me was doing the same coz she was busy that month. So she asked for a break as she was starting a new job and wanted space and wanted to chill. Its been a month now that we been on a break and i get different vibes from her like last week she txt me and goes that we havent spoken 4 ages and that she hopes that i havent 4gten abt her and then when i call her now and again she rejects my calls and then sometimes she calls me. I dont know what 2 do. when she wanted the break i asked her if she loved me and she goes yes. I then go do you want to break up and she goes no. I am 24 and she is 21. We both work and live on the same road. I cnt wait to hang around coz me getting old. I dont know what 2 do. I love her and i tell her all da time bt when i send a text i dnt get a reply where as be for i did. HELP |
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Post subject: Re: Taking a Break
Posted: Jun 29, 2006 - 12:17 AM
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Yes, this is a game. It's called "playing hard-to-get" and it's designed to sadistically torture a man who is interested in a woman who isn't interested in anything other than being pursued.
From your brief post, my best guess is that your "girlfriend" will always have other activities -- work, moving, whatever -- that will have a higher priority over spending time (or texting or talking with) you. You will always get the short end of the stick. I haven't heard how she gives you anything in return for your affection and interest, other than aggravation and pain.
You can continue to participate in this game, or not. It's your call. |
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Post subject: Re: Taking a Break
Posted: Jun 29, 2006 - 08:21 AM
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| So what do I do. She the one who asked for a break. I had to say yes to it because I knew it was the right thing 2 do and I done it because me was looking out for her. I lover her to bits. How much time do I give her. How can I make things better and not worry about breaking up. What can i say if I text her that makes her feel wanted and to make her mind up about being on a break or breaking up. To me it feels like a break up coz me never been on a break from a relationship. I dont want to break up. |
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Post subject: Re: Taking a Break
Posted: Jul 03, 2006 - 12:08 AM
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I don't believe that this girl was ever really your "girlfriend," so "taking a break" is kinda like "normalizing" your relationship. She never made a commitment to you, and strung you along. If you want to believe that she is your girlfriend, then that is your prerogative. But the bottom line is that she's the one calling the shots and you are at the effect of her behavior and her decisions.
Consequently, you can wait around for her to throw you some crumbs, and you can decide to take them, or not. I can't tell you how long you should wait for her to chill, or whatever she says she has to do before she's willing to be your girlfriend. But the truth is, since you never really had her, you've already lost her. |
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Posted: Jul 17, 2006 - 03:29 PM
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Posted: Jul 20, 2006 - 08:07 AM
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| Hello. This week has turned into a bad one for me. Last week me tried to call my girlfriend but she would not pick up. I had to tell her how I felt. Then I decided to write her a letter and tell her how I feel about the taking a break thing. I posted the letter to her on thurday and on sunday she txted me back repeating some of the stuff on the letter i said and on the same txt she goes u know what lets call it quits. I dont want to play your silly game anymore. What have I done she called for a break its been 2 months know. Dont I have a right to ask her and tell her about my feeling. I tried to call her she anit having none of it. What can I do to sort it out. I lover her to bits. Dont know what to do HELP???????? |
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Posted: Aug 08, 2006 - 08:01 AM
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Hey i'm 23 now your last message just remindend me what i used to do as a teenager because i was imature.. Sorry to disappoint you but this chick doesnt love you she is probably dating someone else already.. When she told you she wanted a break she just wasnt sure if she wanted to break up with you she wanted to make sure whe wont regret it.. So the space she asked for was for her advantage if it doesnt work where she is going or if she realise she still needs you she will not suffer,, It was a room she created for herself to come back anytime she wants.. but you made things worse by letting her know you are waiting for her!!
Wake Up Smell the coffee!! |
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