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nj555
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Post subject: Mind Games- Should I RUN????
 Posted: Mar 03, 2010 - 09:04 PM
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This guy i was seeing recently just stopped talking to me. I have no idea why and it really hurt. When I asked him he kept saying that everything was fine, and that things were the same between us. So recently I just told him that we were finished because if he can't communicate then we have absolutely no future. He said that he had some things he wanted to tell me and we should talk about it face to face. So the day he scheduled to do so he said he would text me to tell me the place and he never did. Then the next day he called saying why didn't we meet up for lunch when he never said we were meeting for lunch. He suggested a place and we hung up. I realized I had not gotten a time and sent a text to ask for the time and never heard back from him. I do not understand this behavior at all and it seems extremely childish like he's playing games.
About a month ago he made a statement about me not wanting to be boyfriend and girlfriend even though we are clearly more than friends. My response is that he is currently going through a divorce and is still legally married and I would not feel comfortable being a girlfriend to a married man. I told him I did like him and care for him which I feel is understandable. He still completely shut me out cold and I am so confused by this behavior especially because he claimed he liked me so much and I was so different, etc. My feelings are truly hurt.
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Janice
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Posted: Apr 04, 2010 - 10:04 PM
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It is clear that this man is not ready, willing and/or able to be in a relationship with you. You can care about him all you want, but that will not make a difference. He may mean everything he says about wanting to see you or be with you, but as you sadly learned, he is incapable of following through on anything.
If you have the opportunity, let him know that you hope he is able to resolve his marital problems. However, you can only date him AFTER he has figured everything out. Doing so will make you feel better about yourself, as you will be in the driver's seat. Move on to find someone who IS ready, willing and/or able to be in an exclusive committed relationship. Good luck! |
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