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carolinawolfie
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Post subject: I need help because I do not understand
 Posted: Oct 24, 2009 - 07:26 PM
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Background: I am a 48 year old man that had his one marriage end a few years ago after 23 years. I started the end because I was tired of always feeling that everyone else was more important. and she proved me correct by not willing to do anything to try to save it. Not perfect by any means... but have never hit not cheated. I have never been the best looking guy but I have noticed that I at least do impress some.
I have found that dating has changed. Simply put... if I am unwilling to make them feel like a queen while they work through their issues then I am the bad guy. I find myself continually being blamed for other guys' crap and my own needs are secondary to the independence that women feel now-a-days. Add to that, I am not a pretty boy but when I read what women look for (besides looks) then I AM THE MAN.
So, should I move to the wilds of Alaska and forget romance or is there a chance (I need better odds than 10%) that there really are women that don't need Brad Pitt. |
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carolinawolfie
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Post subject: RE: I need help because I do not understand
Posted: Oct 31, 2009 - 01:05 AM
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| And a week later... not one single bit of advice... figures because no one like to look inside themselves and see the truth. Don't write now because as usual no one wants to think of anyone besides themeselves... out of here... gone ... fuck it. I won't check this place because it is a waste of time. Website deleted. |
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Janice
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Post subject: RE: I need help because I do not understand
Posted: Nov 05, 2009 - 09:20 PM
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Hey CarolinaW, Hold up there! We're busy people too.
I don't think you should move to the wilds of Alaska. Sarah Palin is still loose up there and you never know what can happen (just kidding). But I do think that what you complained about in your second post may prove to be insightful for you at this time in your life. That is to ask yourself -- what can I do to be a better boyfriend and/or husband the second-time around? It takes two to tango, and while it sounded like your ex-wife was a p.o.w. (a piece of work) you stayed in the dance for 23 years.
But now you have the opportunity to be the kind of man, and maybe the kind of husband that you want to be. But you have to start with yourself, and not blame others. . . at least not so loudly.
I suggest you get involved in activities you enjoy where you can meet like-minded people. Volunteer at some charity events to give to others less fortunate, or to animals who need human intervention and love. Giving is a great cure for the disappointments and frustrations inherent in dating. When you're ready, get in touch with me for a complimentary telephone coaching session so that we can see about getting you online. It couldn't hurt! |
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Posted: Dec 26, 2009 - 08:27 AM
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| I honestly think you are over reacting right now. You did say he was in college and this could mean he is very busy. If you know he really likes you then don't panic. Give him time. You don't know what the situation may be. |
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