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planetpolarna
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Post subject: Why does he seems to hate me?
 Posted: Oct 09, 2009 - 04:01 AM
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Joined: Nov 04, 2008
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Hello,
Well,I've spent over a year,trying to figure out why this guy seems to hate me! Everytime I see someone he also knows,they start telling me these really fake and rude stuff he says about me!
We used to talk over a year ago,but suddenly,he stopped talking to me from one day to another,and I still don't understand why.
And everytime I try to clear things out with him,he starts saying non-sense arguments,which really make me wonder why is he so rude at me.
I have never said nothing bad about him,despite the fact he is always seraching for an opportunity to talk trash about me.
My question is,if he's almost turning 23,why the hell is he acting like a little boy with his "hater-attitude" and always trying to bother me and dissappoint me?
Does he really hate me? or are we so alike we tend to "crash" and not get along?
It's important to say that I've always had good intentions with him,actually I kind of still like him and I have given him the shot to make amends and try to start everything again for good,but he either says it's "ok" and starts talking trash again about me in the next 5 minutes,or he ignores me.
What should I do? Just move along and don't care if he feels something for me?
Help!
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Janice
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Posted: Oct 12, 2009 - 06:03 PM
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Joined: Mar 19, 2004
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Location: New York City
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My 12 year old niece was complaining to me about the same thing: there was a 13 year old boy who kept bothering her, getting into her business, and finding negative things to say about her to others. Why do I mention this to you? Because this guy, although older than 13 years old, is acting like a boy when it comes to expressing an interest in you.
Unfortunately, it never works, whether you're a 12 year old girl or a 23 year old woman.
This guy has no social skills and no understanding of how his behaviors affect others. The fact that you've given him a chance to make amends makes no difference if he doesn't have any awareness of having made any errors. He's only interested in getting your attention, even if it means negative attention.
Why then, are you wasting your time thinking about him and complaining about him? There are plenty of other fish in the sea. The best way to handle him is to completely and totally ignore him. Don't give him even the negative attention he attempts to elicit. Doing so consistently will give him the message that you can't be provoked. |
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