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beccamalibu
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Post subject: what is he thinking? and what would you do??
 Posted: Mar 04, 2009 - 12:46 AM
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| ok, i'll try and make this as short as possible. basically, i went out with a friend her boyfriend and his friend to a club. ( i have a crush on his friend). anyway me and him ended up hooking up (just kissed). then after the club i went home. he has been talking to me briefly since then. very briefly, i'm talking about just hey whats up, i'm bored. last night i told him i would have him come over and keep me company but that it was late. he never responded back. do you think i'm playing too easy or desperate? my friend says i need to be colder because guys like a chase/hard to get. but the thing is i don't want to push him away, because i really like him a lot, and i do want to see him again. but to me, i like when the guy initiates a first date or whatever. what should i do? should i just not hit him up, hit him up when the weekend comes? send him a cute text? thanks in advance! |
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Janice
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Posted: Mar 15, 2009 - 02:50 AM
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I happen to be a big believer in just letting things unfold on their own. If you push or attempt to manipulate a guy, then it's likely that they won't feel in control, and guys like to feel like they're in the driver's seat.
I suggesst that you instead work behind the scenes. Talk with your girlfriend to find out if her boyfriend heard anything about you from his friend. Let her know that you like him and see if she can advocate for you. If the guy gets the message, and is interested, then he'll contact you -- whether it be by text or phone call or in person. But don't listen to your girlfriend and be "cold." Guys like girls who are warm and friendly and responsive to their interests. Being otherwise could come across as not genuine.
Good luck! |
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kim
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Posted: Aug 22, 2009 - 08:42 PM
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| I think you already let him know you are interested the ball is in his court. Be warm and friendly appear interested but let him make the move forward . |
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Posted: Oct 09, 2009 - 04:06 AM
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It's so last decade to let everything to the guy. I think it's OK to send him signs that you are interested in him,but we all know that there is no secret to get someone:BE YOURSELF. Of course you have already given him the signs,and it's up to him to "throw tha ball back at you" If you keep texting him or so,you'll really seem kind of desperate. It's way better to wait for a little sign from him,and as realistic as it seems,if he just doesn't seem to be interested as you are,then just move along.
I know it's easy to say it from my point of view,but believe me,keeping a realistic way of thinking is way better than falling for someone that might never be yours from the start.Spare yourself the sufferment. |
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