I think the work we did together, the encouragement, the advice and accountability you gave me has been incredible, wise & very valuable. I am going to continue using everything I learned in my future dating endeavors which will hopefully end soon when I get engaged :-) and married....
-- Jessie
The Jewish New Year begins tonight and I’m
reminded of the calendar new year that begins on January 1st. These are times of
reflection, clearing the slate, forgiving, planning and starting anew.
An experience that I hear people talk a lot about is “guilt.” When a person
has expectations of him/herself, or often of others, and it doesn't get met, guilt
can find its way in. Guilt is most famous for being an unpleasant and even painful
emotion that can hover inside us for long stretches of time. It can affect how we
feel about ourselves and how we interact in our relationships.
I'm going to try and post a feature every Friday which I plan to call
"Focused Fridays." This will hopefully be a source of inspiration
and guidance as you go into your weekend activities, the most likely time that
you'll be meeting lots of people, one of whom might be a potential candidate for
your life partner.
I think that a good place to start is by reinforcing the concept that a singles
should still feel lovable and acceptable even if they don't have a life partner.
It's important that singles have a healthy self-esteem, and know that they are
worthwhile and whole people regardless of their marital status. Most importantly,
having a healthy self-esteem enables you to declare that you deserve happiness and
fulfillment in your life, now and in the future.
So whether or not you have any real “dates” lined up, do something that you
enjoy this weekend. Invite a friend, a family member, or a co-worker, and focus
on experiencing the great person that you already are! That can only make you
that much more attractive when you finally meet that special someone.
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