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Dear Janice, I accompanied my father to consult with a surgeon because he needed surgery. During the initial visit he acted like a typical surgeon, aloof etc., but during the pre-op visit I noticed that he would just stare and stare at me and smile. I found myself returning the same. The surgery is over and I sent him a bouquet to thank him, and he called to thank me for the bouquet. We speak and flirt and I ask him if we can go out, and he says "asbsolutely that should be lots of fun, however we have to wait till I am finished treating your dad." I say fine. We see each other evey two months and we stare, smile and even take the appts as opportunities to get to know each other better. He gave me his cell number, but I have not called because I get the implicit feeling it's for when treatment is over which will be in June. My question is--will I have to call him to ask him out again or will he remember? There is an age difference of about 15 years however we are equally educated and I am extremely successful so I think it should be ok. What are your thoughts? Lonni Dear Lonni, This question is a good example of how singles can meet each other in the most normal, real situations that we encounter on a daily basis. While your relationship is "developing" in its own organic way, I do have some reactions and thoughts. The first thing you need to find out is if he is indeed single. While you know him professionally, you may not know if he is truly in the market for a relationship, or if he is interested in being friends and just taking you up on your offer to go out to lunch. Once you've cleared that up (that he's interested in more than just gonig out for a "thank-you" meal), then I don't see the age difference as being a problem, unless you find out that you really don't have much in common. So you have to ask questions and listen to the answers in order to determine if you share some of the same interests, values and life goals. And, of course, make sure he has the essential qualities of honesty, loyalty, generosity and caring.
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As for what you should do before June, do nothing but go to the appointments with your father! The fact that the doctor gave you his cell phone is a bit confusing, but I suggest that you stick with the simplest plan of waiting until your father is healthy and his treatment is over. Good things come to those who wait! Good luck!
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