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In a healthy relationship, ?trust? usually develops over time. This is when you get to know if your dating partner is honest, reliable, trustworthy and loyal. You ask questions and watch behaviors in order to determine how much you can trust your dating partner with the most intimate parts of yourself ? emotionally, physically, intellectually and even financially. It appears as though your boyfriend still has connections with his ex on many of these levels, as he still conducts and depends on her business. While you may feel confident that he wouldn?t cheat on you physically (i.e., sexually), it may feel like ?cheating? on you because he still depends on her financially (i.e., he still needs her money via the service he provides). Since you say you want John to ask his ex not to call ?for personal reasons,? I suggest that you begin a conversation with him about his business practices and expectations. See if you can learn just how much of a personal relationship he believes he needs to maintain with his customers in order to keep their business. Then tell him how you feel and ask him what he may be able to do to reassure you. Regardless of what he says however, time is still the most important element that you?ll need in order to see if his actions are consistent with his words. Let me know how it goes!
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