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Dear Janice, A few months ago, I started communicating with a man from a different country. For three weeks we exchanged long, intense emails and spoke for hours on the telephone. Suddenly he stopped communicating with no explanation. However, I had plans to visit his country on business and sent him an email asking if he would like to meet. He responded very excitedly; we went out six times during my two week stay. We had a wonderful time -- we have a lot in common and have an incredible chemistry. We agreed to continue communicating, and he would consider traveling to visit me. Soon after I came back, his emails were less frequent; but when I stopped writing, he called me wanting to know why he didn't hear from me and that he wanted to continue calling and writing. Then after 2 to 3 emails the communication died down again. What do you think is going on with him? Thanks, Theresa
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Dear Theresa, From the information that you give, it seems like this guy is following the saying "out of sight, out of mind." If you read my Focused Points article, "From Virtual to Actual," and other blog entries, you know that I understand how challenging it is to maintain a long-distance relationship. You have absolutely no idea how he spends his days, or who he is doing what with, especially if you live in a different country. If he was REALLY interested in pursuing you to determine if the two of you could have a future together, he would be making plans to come and see you, and doing so rather quickly. At least he would be attempting to maintain some kind of contact with you. But he isn't doing either. Take that as the message he's giving you: since you're not easily accessible (i.e., you are "geographically undesirable"), he's not interested. But go and visit him again, and I'm sure you'll have a great time. But that'll be it. I wish I could be more optimistic, but my job is to be realistic! All the best!
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