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	She says she needs time, but how can I speed up the process?	4822 Reads

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hi Janice. I dated this girl for over 2 years. We broke up and since then I havent been the same. I need her in my life. She says she's not emotionally ready for a relationship with anyone and that she lost that connection she once had with me. We have been friends since, but it's really for hard for me because I know guys at her work are hitting on her constantly. She promises me when she's ready for a relationship she will give me a chance. What can i do to speed up the process? She means the world to me! what can i do to get that connection back? Thank u so much for your help! Richard

I am merely going to direct you to listen to what she's telling you! Psychological research indicates that the best way to predict someone's behavior is by listening to what they say. If she says she's not ready, then she's not ready. If she promises that she'll give you the first chance when she's ready, then you have to give her the time she needs.Thinking that you can "speed up the process" is counter-productive to what she knows she needs to accomplish in order to be ready for the kind of relationship (most likely with you) that she wants.

Worrying about losing her to other guys who are "hitting on her" therefore does not sound likely. . . . .

If she ends up hooking up with another guy, that is not something you can control. Showing that you are strong and not overly needy would be your best strategy while you both go through this break. Give her consistent messages that you support her growth and development,. She has a goal for what to do during this time apart. Let her know that you will be there when she gets to the other side. If it turns out that she decides that a relationship with you isn't for her, then believe that it was a thoughtful decision and not one that she made lightly.


	Posted by: Janice on Tuesday, February 03, 2009 - 11:23 PM

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