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I have a relationship question. I like a man of 52 who has been divorced 7 years. He seems shy. He talks to me, smiles, looks googly eyed, positions his body towards mine. I don't see him often (we work at the same place but far from each other), We keep contact by e-mail. He is open and talks about his life and such. He said he "enjoys his bachelorhood very much." Was he trying to tell me he is not interested in me with that remark? I have never come on to him although I feel he knows I like him. Can you shed some light? Brenda Dear Brenda, I have always been a big advocate of listening to what people say, as it is the best predictor of their behavior. So yes, by saying he enjoys his bachelorhood very much, he's telling you that he plans to stay a bachelor. It won't matter how much he flirts with you, moves his body extra close to you, or reveals about his life to you in emails. After all, isn't that what "enjoying" one's bachelorhood all about? Especially if he knows you like him. Consequently, I suggest that you keep the relationship platonic. If he actually asks you out on a real date, you can begin to gather evidence to determine if you're both looking for the same things in a relationship. If not, then you can decide if you truly do want a relationship with a "committed bachelor." Good luck!
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