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I think the work we did together, the encouragement, the advice and accountability you gave me has been incredible, wise & very valuable. I am going to continue using everything I learned in my future dating endeavors which will hopefully end soon when I get engaged :-) and married....
-- Jessie[Click here to read more]
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I recently worked with 2 single men living in 2 very different parts of the
world with different dating challenges. Both of these men are looking for a life
partner, however I’m going to change some of their other identifying
information in order to protect their privacy. The points and ideas that I want to make however, are true and real.
John lives in New Zealand. John is divorced and acknowledges that there
are not that many single women living within a 200 mile radius of his home.
This makes dating to find a life partner a challenge for him. Martin lives in
San Francisco and, by the way, is heterosexual. He believes that his sexual
orientation works to his advantage, as there are many single women living in
S.F. who are “looking for a straight guy like me.” His challenge though,
is that there is an abundance of available women. And since he’s looking for
just one life partner, he’s afraid that if he gets too close to one, then there
could be a “better” one waiting for him around the corner.
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My advice to John was that he think out of the geographical box,
and cast a wider net for where his life-partner candidate could be living. Once
we started talking about checking out online dating profiles of women in
Austrailia and other parts of the world, he began to reconsider his geographical
preferences. While he hasn’t gotten on a plane to meet anyone just yet, he has
begun a few correspondences with women via email and phone that have made him
feel less isolated and hopeless.
Martin, as you may already have guessed, needed to do the opposite of
John–instead of giving equal consideration to every women he met, he has had
to be more selective. This was counterintuitive to Martin at first! But he was
sure that he was through with “recreational dating” and was ready to commit to
just one woman. This meant that he had to look inside of himself to determine
more specifically what he wanted and needed in a life partner. This then helped
him as he went about sorting and screening the women that he began meeting.
Relationships involve making many decisions that are frequently difficult to
make on one’s own. As you can see, both John and Martin have been able to benefit
from the coaching they received in order to get clearer on how to find their
life partner. And they haven’t had to do it alone.
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Posted by: Janice on Tuesday, November 18, 2003 - 07:40 PM
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