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The Fourth of July just passed and I have to admit that I was disappointed. My husband and I had planned lots of activities to do together, all of which required clear skies and warm sunshine. Instead, it was cold and rainy for most of the day, which meant that all of our plans had to be shelved. I was frustrated and disappointed, and in a bad mood that matched the gray skies.
Dealing with frustration and disappointment is a skill that we all have to learn early in life. Unfortunately, many people don't, and it can manifest in many aspects of their lives, from work to play to love. Like many people, I've had my share of disappointments in my life, many much greater than experiencng failed Fourth of July plans. I've developed an armory of techniques to help me deal, and am frequently called on to help others
develop ones that work for them.
So instead of continuing to mope and complain on the Fourth of July, I went to the gym. I sweated it out and distracted myself while watching "Project Runway" repeats on tv. I had more time than I usually am able to schedule for work-outs during the week, so I didn't feel pressed for time. On the way home I called my husband from my cell phone to share that I was feeling much better. We made dinner together, watched a celebratory show and then one of my all-time favorite
movies, Woody Allen's "Manhattan."
It's no secret that dating to find a life partner relationship will be riddled with frustration and disappointments. So it's necessary to have some good coping strategies in your repetoire. Start by looking at dating is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and create the kind of life you want. Taking advantage of the opportunities that come with frustration can be one road to growth.
Besides, how many opportunities for growth are in a pint of Ben & Jerry's?
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Posted by: Janice on Saturday, July 07, 2007 - 05:00 AM
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