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Hi Janice, I use a couple of online dating sites to find a relationship. I've written what I consider to be a creative, unique profile that tries to show me as someone with intelligence, wit and some depth and imagination. But I get ignored or rejected by probably 99% of women who I contact or who see my profile. Even by those who are themselves intelligent and educated. Would it be possible to ask for you to look at the profile for your impression of it? Steve Of course I will look at your profiles Steve, but I prefer to do so in the context of knowing more about you and your vision of your ideal relationship. Singles frequently end up writing essays for their profiles that don't necessarily match who they are and what they want. One reason for this is, like you perhaps, you're trying too hard. Consequently, your profile either doesn't feel real or it's filled with a bunch of overused adjectives. I have coached many singles who told me "I tried dating online and it didn't work for me." My response is usually, "But you didn't do it with a coach!" Once I teach a client how to create an effective profile and show them how to sort and screen through the various members contacting them, they usually see how they unknowingly made mistakes that cause the failure. Oh, and an important piece of information that is often ignored --
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singles who sign up on an online dating website as a "free member" aren't allowed
to correspond with those members who contact them. Current statistics say that almost 50% of online daters have not paid their memberships. That means you have to adjust your expectations of being contacted by someone you write to by half. Nonetheless, the online dating world is a big ocean full of singles, like you, looking for relationships. While I admit that some websites do have their problems, it's still an immensely successful business. Why? Because singles continue to meet and match! It just takes some savvy, know-how and persistence.
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