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Thank you for your valuable time and coaching...Thank you for helping me to believe, to stay focused and to have faith....
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I had a wonderful trip to Los Angeles, California, visiting my family and friends, and giving two workshops to singles. My brother and I took my kids to Disneyland, Legoland, and even a couple of museums, all of which were lots of fun. The weather was fantastic -- in the 70's and sunshine every day. One thing that I took special notice of while in L.A. is all that I've received from the many people in my life. So I thought that I would share what I learned about relationships on this
trip that can be especially helpful for singles searching for a life partner. It began when a woman came up to me after my "Chemistry, Love & Chocolate" workshop. She said that she had gone on a few dates with a man who now wanted to break up. He had told her this over the phone, but he happened to be at the workshop and he suggested that they go out for coffee to talk. She told me that she liked the man and was sad that he didn't want to continue, so what should she do now? she asked me.
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It's usually very difficult for me to answer someone's question after a workshop when there are another 10 or more people standing around waiting to ask questions too. But I remember feeling inspired and said, "Just go and focus on listening to what he says. Try not to be defensive. Every relationship is a gift, and he will give you valuable information that you can use to eventually attain the relationship you really want." This interaction later reminded me of a situation that had occurred with one of my coaching clients. She and a man she was dating had agreed to end their relationship, and even though she knew he wasn't for her, she nonetheless felt sad about it ending. I remember asking her, "What did you gain from dating him?" She said, "I learned that it was okay to be myself.... I got to feel an attraction to someone that came from connecting emotionally from the inside, and this helped the attraction on the outside.... Most of all, I learned that making an emotional connection doesn't guarantee that those two people should make a commitment." As you probably already know, navigating the dating waters can be complicated. But identifyng what you gain from each relationship gives you valuable information to aid you in your search for the person who will eventually become your life partner. A coach can help you mine all that your relationships offer. You'll dig a little deeper, but I guarantee that you'll strike gold.
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Posted by: Janice on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 06:00 PM
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